My laptop died on me about two weeks ago. Apparently there is something wrong with the graphic card. I do intend to get it fixed later this month anyway, so you see why I haven't done a blog entry since the beginning of march. My life has been quite uneventful and I am trying to rejuvenate myself, make a little money before school begins again in april.
I wonder how many people out here are really into online dating and what they really think about it. My cousin met this guy online, facebook precisely. After months of chatting online and subsequently on the phone they decided to meet up. She had sent some pictures of herself to him while he just sent her a scanned old passport photograph, apparently he had no pictures stored on his laptop.
Prior to their meeting physically, they already discussed a lot about their lives, had both fallen in love with each other. Now this is where I am a bit skeptical , can you fall in love with someone you have not physically meet before? Anyway, they met up and she was quite disappointed with his appearance and the height lol. She has feelings for him but she knows he is more in love with her than she is with him.
Anyway she came back feeling all mixed up and so on but she has decided to keep it going. She has been asking for my own take on this and I suggested that she let the relationship grow and see what happens. I think although physical attractiveness is criterion when it comes to choosing a partner, there is still so much more to look out for in a potential partner e.g shared values, personality etc, afterall looks fade.
I'm excited to know you guys' take on this.
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6 comments:
IMO, she should have suspected something when he did not send a full picture. In this day and age, almost everyone has a decent image somewhere. One passport photo after all this while of talking shows he was being deceptive. He should have been honest about his looks and maybe it would not have been a severe shock to her. She could have gotten past that. But now she is dealing with this and something tells me she may not pursue the relatioship, which could be a shame if he turns out to be perfect for her, looks/height notwithstanding.
I agree with LucidL. If they were dating for months, he had the opportunity to take phots and upload them, or even buy a webcam and they do video chat. Still, I agree with you that looks are not all that matters. If sshe already loved what she found out of his mind/personality/character, she should try it further.
I met my SO online and we did an LDR for almost a year. It was not easy but so much worth it in the end. All the best to your cousin.
@lucidlilth
I agree...It feels like one is been handed the short end of the stick(no pun intended).
@Myne Whitman
Wow..you and your SO are a testimony that online dating can led to great things. She is willing to go on with the relationship, hopefully it will all work out well in the end.
I have to agree with the two ladies: there is basically no reason for anyone with access to the internet to not also have access to a recent picture of themselves, even if they have to beg a stranger with a camera to take it and email it to them.
Was she disappointed with his height because he said he was a certain height and wasn't, or did she just think from his picture he'd be a certain height?
Physical attraction is important in my opinion, but it's not the most important thing. If you love the person's character and heart, think they are a good person, you share similar values and life goals and you can see yourself growing with them, it's worth giving it a shot. If she's repulsed by him physically though...it won't ever work.
Can you fall in love with someone you have never met? Hmm, I guess so, though I don't think I can, personally (though I can develop very very strong feelings indeed!).
@Gng
Thank for you comment
I did not ask her if she did inquire about height and stuff but I think she assumed he would be a certain height. I think she found it hard bringing the two together this person she came to know virtually and the person she met physically.
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